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You and Your Tween Managing the years from 9 to 13:Kumagai-yutaka

Netmums Published in October 23, 2018, 9:36 am
 You and Your Tween Managing the years from 9 to 13:Kumagai-yutaka

You and Your Tween Managing the years from 9 to 13:Kumagai-yutaka


F. Hubbard
F. Hubbard Reply to on 6 June 2012
I found this book really helpful with understanding what was going on in the head of my nine-year-old. I put some of the suggestions into practice and had immediately good results. I didn't agree with all the advice or theories, but overall it was a most useful book. I chose this book before others that had received favourable reviews because of it being British in origin -- US culture and their approach to pre-teens and teens, and life in general is so different from ours that I didn't think advice books based on the US would have much to say to us living in the UK. I was not disapointed by this book, and have already recommended it to several of daughter's friends' parents.
seonaid mackenzie
seonaid mackenzie Reply to on 25 May 2014
A great book for all parents of children aged 9-13, or a year younger so you know what to expect,
positive parenting a must at this age, I would recommend reading it, a third adult in their lives big key
a god parent, granny, aunt of nanny, they start to break away from the mother especially
Catori Reply to on 4 June 2014
Another fab book from netmums. Easy to read and feels like you are talking to friends. Has helped me a lot with my tween :)
swanny Reply to on 6 March 2015
Americanised book
Janet Moor
Janet Moor Reply to on 17 September 2014
Really well written & useful.
Mrs W
Mrs W Reply to on 28 December 2011
I really thought my 11 year old boy was becoming a lout until I read this book, my little angel is still in there, he just needs some guidance and help through these diffucult years. Helpful & practical advice, even the few chats we have already had due to this book have put our relationship back on track. My daughters tantrums have been dealt with fast and efficiently and before you know it, she is back down with us and everyone is friends again. All this from looking at things differently using the book for reference.
WoodleyGranny Reply to on 29 July 2011
I wish I'd had this book when my two children were "Tweens"! Lots of "case notes" and reports from other parents on what worked, what didn't - nice to know you're not the only parent the upheaval is happening to!
I bought it for the parents of our grand-children, the oldest of whom is now 10, and showing signs of "Tween-ship", next-in-line- is only 6 yet, but her turn will come! I'm reading it first, though!
Plenty of sensible advice contributed by both Tween parents and experts, in an easy-to-read style. I would say buy this book well before your first child reaches this stage - and put the advice into practise much earlier as well!
CAW Reply to on 12 February 2013
I came across this book when looking for answers about how to avoid conflict with my 12 year old, who was severely stretching our boundaries. Having read a few pages on line, I thought that it might provide some answers for me. The book is just what I needed! It confirmed that I was not alone in the issues we were facing and I found useful tips from both other parents and experts. The book is easy to read and is full of common sense strategies, which often escape us when faced with a challenging 'tween'. There are ideas for dealing with issues about boundaries, friendships, bullying, changing schools and many other issues facing 9 to 13 year olds. The conflict is now diminishing and our 12 year old is happier and coping better with the challenges of growing up, just because we have employed some of the strategies described in the book. I have recommended this book to friends & would recommend it more widely.
English Mum
English Mum Reply to on 30 May 2011
A lot has been said recently about The Tween. Not still a `kid' (my mum would tell me off for that - `they're not goats!'), and yet not really a teenager, the tween is a pretty modern phenomenon. Netmums' new book, You and Your Tween, looks at `managing the years from 9 to 13' with Hollie Smith, a parenting expert and author of no less than eight books on parenting. She should know what she's talking about, then...

The sections are well thought-out and do make the book easy to dip in and out of when you need advice on a specific subject. There are chapters on conflict and communication, education, friends and peers, puberty (including the dreaded sex and relationships) modern media, good health, emotional issues, and independence and responsibility. Each section is enhanced, in my opinion, with the addition of the experiences of real mums. Sometimes these mums have tried different methods to those recommended in the book, or have approached a problem from a different angle. I like this - those `holier than thou you must do it my way' books aren't my cup of tea at all. I enjoyed reading how other mums deal with issues such as online time and homework, and really felt like I'd learned some new ideas and things to try.

Worthy of a mention, I thought, were the tips for talking and listening (I think we all need reminding to stay calm when dealing with our children, and the advice about giving your tweens your full attention when they're talking is something that I will try hard to remember). I read a bit of the puberty section out to my own two, just for the sheer joy of watching them squirm, but even they admitted that the book's approach was a good one - no nonsense and factual. It was also really interesting to read the varying approaches to on-screen time - ranging from no TV during the week, to no rules at all. The reminder that `when setting ground-rules for our tweens, most of us could still benefit from taking a long hard look at our own leisure habits' struck a chord. So often in parenting we adopt a `do as I say not do as I do' system, which is far from ideal.

All in all, I'd thoroughly recommend this book - with my oldest now 16, I wish I'd read it a good few years ago. If you've got a tween, or a nearly-tween, I'd give this a go. While nothing in parenting might be completely new (even if we put a new label on it), the advice is sound and the opinions are intelligent. And hey, who doesn't need a little help?
Emmylou Reply to on 29 May 2011
I have 2 tweens and lately it has felt like we have 2 giant toddlers in the house. Like the book says I did all the positive parenting when they were smaller and it has shown me that all you need to do is adapt the same techniques as they get older (simple now you say it )

The way that the book is split up makes it very easy to dip in and out of and find some solutions quickly if you are in a sticky situation (!).
The bit I found really good was the comments from members, it made me realise that we aren't the first to experience this, most people go through the same things at some stage.

I read through the book a couple of nights ago now, so I made a conscious effort to put into practice what I had read when they came home from school yesterday. We actually had a great evening with no door slamming, we made plans for the weekend and we even have tidy bedrooms now (which is pretty much a miracle!)

I like the way that the book doesn't patronize or at the other end of the scale assume you have a psychology degree. It is written clearly and succinctly but with plenty of detail. The layout of information, expert comments then member comments works really well.

I would definitely recommend to anyone that has a child that is a tween (or soon will have - no harm getting prepared).
Great job Netmums, can't wait for your next book :)
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